I recently spoke with a friend regarding marriage and problems that may arise. I was open and honest about my experiences with my husband. We've been through so much in just 7 years of marriage. There were times I was so high on love my feet dared not to touch the ground. There were other times our love for each other did not seem strong enough to carry us through. I am not a quitter but there were times divorce seemed like the reasonable next step.
I have come to understand that marriage is not only a journey where two people continue onward together. Marriage is truly an avenue to self discovery. I'm pretty sure you're wondering what I mean by that. Marriage is the true reflector of self. As you continue on with your mate, you see yourself through their eyes. You see your flaws and you see your splendor, the good and the bad.
Marriage is also a great teacher. From day one, you're enrolled in " Idiosyncrasies 101." This is where you learn everything about your spouse. From the obvious to the not so obvious. Things that just don't come up when you're dating but shine bright when you're married. You'll learn a lot about a person when you share the same space with them for a prolonged period of time. "Wow, I didn't know you made that sound when you sleep." But this course is tricky!! Midway through it shifts focus from them to you!
To be honest, there's a lot about myself that is still undiscovered but there's also a lot about my self that I've learned from being married. I've learned what kind of wife and mother that I am, where I fall short and where I do a pretty good job. I've seen areas about my personality that I once viewed as strengths, when I was an independent women, be so destructive to my partner. I've learned the power of compromise, love, and when to let go. Not every decision needs to be yours, it's okay to meet in the middle sometimes. Not every battle needs to be fought and true love really does conquer all!!
